MG is not the end of the world, but more people should be aware of it
My twin brother hopes this column will help others feel less alone
“To acknowledge another is to paint strokes of kindness on the canvas of existence.” I was unsuccessful in trying to find the source of this quote, but I like it a lot. As human beings, we want acknowledgment of our ambitions and achievements, as well as our struggles. I write this column not only to acknowledge how my twin brother, Aaron, lives with myasthenia gravis (MG), but also to create more public awareness of the disease.
Aaron was diagnosed with MG in 1999 and had thymectomy surgery in 2000. Our family, especially me, didn’t know how to cope with it then, and so much was left unsaid. Aaron and I are only now discussing how MG has affected his life, 26 years after his diagnosis.
I am an expatriate living in Manila, the Philippines, while Aaron still resides in New York City, our hometown. These online conversations are extra challenging because they are so digitally impersonal. I’m more than 8,500 miles away from Aaron as we’re having hard discussions about MG that should’ve occurred long ago.
I’m happy we’re doing it, though, because Aaron has long dealt with MG silently, which was unfair to both of us. Writing these columns helps me a lot, especially with my sense of survivor’s guilt. But what does Aaron think about my columns, which detail his personal life and medical condition, after all these months?
Aaron wants more people to know about MG
“I love the column,” Aaron said.
“Why?” I asked.
“Because I know now that I wasn’t the only one with [MG],” Aaron replied. “Also, it’s nice to know that my story might help others. Having MG is not the end of the world.”
I paused before reacting. Aaron has made that comment many times before, but I never fully acknowledged until now what he meant by it.
“Has it ever felt that way to you?” I asked. “Did having MG ever feel like the end of the world?”
“At first,” Aaron said. I tend to be verbose, but I’m a writer. Aaron is good at saying a lot with a few words.
“Some days, I still get mad,” Aaron continued, “but it’s not the end of the world. When you send me your columns, it feels good to know that, and I’m glad it helps others.”
I usually send Aaron a link to my columns, especially when there are comments from readers. This was great to hear, but it amazes me how much I still have to learn about Aaron and his condition.
The thought of Aaron being angry is odd to me. He had to learn to control his anger decades ago, as stress and anger worsen his MG flare-ups and muscle weakness. I recently learned that Aaron still experiences bad flare-ups from time to time.
Aaron has dealt with so much in silence. Maybe it spared me suffering to consider my twin as this ultra-chill, Zen-like dude without acknowledging how infuriating it must be for him to refrain from anger in order not to exacerbate his symptoms.
“What do you hope this column will accomplish in the future?” I asked.
Aaron paused for several moments before answering.
“I hope that more people become aware of MG — that people who don’t have it will learn that it exists.”
I had to acknowledge that the conversation might’ve been getting too deep; Aaron started answering questions in short phrases again, so that was it. I replied that the world is cruel, and some people are only receptive to learning about circumstances that they’re personally affected by.
As twins, we always use comics and geek culture to distract ourselves from uncomfortable things, so we switched topics and discussed how we both hated the movie “Captain America: Brave New World.” It’s basically a sequel to 2008’s “The Incredible Hulk.” Plus, we didn’t feel that the Marvel Cinematic Universe had properly set up Sam Wilson to be the new Captain America.
I hope that as I continue my columns, Aaron and I succeed in getting more people to acknowledge MG and those living with it.
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