Honoring my boundaries and respecting my morning routine

Ignoring those a.m. rituals is a recipe for a bad day

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Mornings and I have an understanding: If I allow myself the time I need to ease into the day, things go relatively smoothly. If I don’t? Let’s just say it’s a recipe for disaster.

I know myself well enough to acknowledge that because of my myasthenia gravis (MG), I need at least 90 minutes after waking up before I can even think about being a functional human being. That time isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity that gives my morning meds time to kick in for the day. It’s the difference between feeling capable and like I’m dragging my body through quicksand all day.

So what happens when I ignore this routine? When I jump into work too soon, rush my morning, or don’t give my meds the time they need to kick in? Everything, and I mean everything, falls apart.

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The domino effect of a rushed morning

Skipping a slow, intentional start to the day might save time on paper, but in reality, it costs me far more than I gain. When I don’t take those 90 minutes, the following happens:

  • Fatigue hits me like a freight train. My energy is drained before I even begin. Instead of feeling ready to tackle the day, I feel like I’m running on fumes.
  • What little stamina I do have disappears. Walking across the room feels like running a marathon. Tasks I can usually get done are pushed to the side for another day.
  • Air hunger — that frustrating feeling of being unable to take a deep breath — creeps in, and it worsens when I push myself too fast, too soon.
  • Brain fog takes over, and I struggle to concentrate, forget what I was doing midtask, and find myself zoning out in my chair, staring at the wall.
  • I feel like I’m playing catch-up all day. No matter how hard I try, I can’t shake the feeling that I’m behind. Instead of being proactive, I’m scrambling to keep up.

None of this is fun. None of it makes for a productive, enjoyable day. And all of it is preventable — if I simply respect the boundaries I’ve set for myself.

Boundaries aren’t just for business

I own two businesses and have established public business hours for a reason. Those hours aren’t just about clients and workload; they’re also designed to protect the time I need to care for myself. When I honor my morning routine, I set myself up for success. When I don’t, I set myself up for struggle.

Despite knowing this, I sometimes let my boundaries slide. Maybe it’s an early meeting, an unexpected email, or just the pressure to get things done. The truth is, no task is worth sacrificing my well-being.

If a friend told me they needed time in the morning to feel their best, I’d encourage them to take it. If a loved one needed rest, I’d remind them that self-care isn’t selfish. So why do I struggle to extend that same kindness to myself?

It’s time to do better. To stop making excuses. To stop treating my own needs as negotiable. Honoring my morning routine isn’t just about feeling good; it’s about respecting myself enough to prioritize what I know works.

When I give myself the time I need, my entire day benefits. I have more energy, clarity, and ease. I move through the day with purpose instead of exhaustion. I show up as the best version of myself.

So here’s my promise to myself: I will protect my mornings. I will respect my boundaries. I will start my day with the care and patience I deserve. Because when I do, everything else falls into place.


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Dennis McCloskey avatar

Dennis McCloskey

I have been on the go nonstop this morning from 6:30 AM to
10:30 AM… and then I read your excellent piece. Thank you for the gentle whack on the side of the head. I needed that. Well done!
Well written.

Dennis

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Sharon Hawe avatar

Sharon Hawe

Thank you for reinforcing that energy high points can differ between individuals and the importance of recognizing and respecting what one's body and mind need. When I retired, it took me two years of barely getting snything done in a day to realize that there was a rhythm to my energy and I was working against it by pushing myself first thing. Like you said, once the energy meter is depleted, with MG, its not always possible to just rest, recharge and resume activity for the rest of the day.

I found my energy fluctuates throughout the day. I'm sluggish first thing, higher energy from 10 to 2, need a mid-afternoon rest, pick up with pre-post supper energy and then wind down. Takes me 2 hours to get through my morning routine and it helps to take breaks like do word games or relax with my coffee. I start my high energy periods with the most urgent or challenging tasks of the day so I can easily defer whatever I can't tackle to another day.

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Theresa Goldstein avatar

Theresa Goldstein

I so totally relate to this. The meds kicking in have to happen or like you note, the day is a train wreck and there is no catching up. Sadly most outsiders cannot relate to this. When we have company, it is difficult. They wake up all bubbly and want to chit chat. I only speak to my dogs a in the morning. It does not require much. If I must be somewhere at say 8 am, I will get up and start my routine at 4 a.m. to give myself 2 hours to function. It is what it is. Another unique thing for me is after a decent size dinner say around 5-6, I am then done for the evening. Occasionally I can beat it but most times I am done. Of course I cooked it so that is possibly some of the fatigue. And digestion, but at 12-2 p.m. I can eat and it is just nourishment and I can Klee moving. Such a weird disease. Fortunately tho, I am on a med regimen where I am so much more productive than 5 years ago. 💕.

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