My Dinner Plate Theory Helps Explain Daily Energy Levels
“Stick a fork in me, I’m done!”
“I don’t have enough spoons for this.”
We’ve all heard various quips involving silverware. When one becomes part of the chronic illness family, they may adopt the term “spoonie,” based on the spoon theory, a metaphor coined by lupus patient Christine Miserandino. Essentially, the spoon theory is a visual way to help those without chronic illness understand our energy levels and how much energy we require for everyday tasks. Wendy Henderson explains the concept further over at our sister site Multiple Sclerosis News Today.
For the past three years, I’ve been working on my own theory. Inspired by the times when my myasthenia gravis (MG) doesn’t play nice, my dinner plate theory starts with the daily foundation of the dinner plate, followed by tasks that are categorized as spoons, forks, or knives.
Dinner plate foundation
All the tasks we must do each day are piled onto the dinner plate. If there are too many tasks and the plate gets buried before we can even begin clearing it, that’s an issue. The dinner plate becomes the overloaded turkey platter at Grandma’s house on Thanksgiving, because heaven forbid you don’t get to experience all the things!
If our plates start off too full, we set ourselves up for failure. This doesn’t do us, our family, our friends, or our co-workers any good. Setting realistic expectations about your abilities is important. With MG, this may look different day to day. Identifying how big your plate is at the beginning of the day will help set you up for success. With time, this gets easier.
For me, I wake up, eat breakfast, and take my meds. I enjoy at least a full hour of downtime and coffee drinking before I do a self-assessment to see where my fatigue levels are. Did I wake up droopy or short of breath? Do my legs or arms feel weighted down or heavy? After this self-assessment, I consider all the tasks I need and want to get done, and determine how many of them can reasonably fit on my plate.
Spoon tasks require the least amount of energy, but they bring the greatest sense of joy and accomplishment when completed. These may include household tasks like daily hygiene or chores. For me, they include showering, brushing my teeth, helping with the dishes, creating art in my studio, writing articles, eating, updating websites, and driving to appointments.
Fork tasks are energy intensive — something that will completely kill your day or drain you of energy quickly, requiring a longer recovery. Fork tasks can be positive or negative. For me, they include therapy and physical therapy appointments, prolonged activity, such as walking or rolling around a large store or an event (I often use my wheelchair for these things), and working a regular job.
Knife tasks are things that I’ve completely cut out of my life because they are too taxing. I include them in my dinner plate theory as a reminder to keep it simple.
The number of forks and spoons an activity requires will vary. For example, let’s say I start the day off with energy levels equaling two forks and 10 spoons. That means I can do one fork activity in the morning and one in the afternoon, with spoon activities scattered about.
If I have a therapy appointment in the morning, that’s a fork. I might eat breakfast (one spoon), try to shower (two or three spoons), and brush my teeth (one spoon) in the morning, and that’s it.
After lunch (one spoon), I decide I want to get some walking in (one fork). With frequent rest periods, I should be able to get my walk in, do the dishes (two spoons), work on website updates (one spoon), and create some art (two spoons).
Knowing my body, accepting my limitations, and living within them has drastically improved my quality of life.
Not everyone will understand the boundaries you set for yourself. It may take some time for you to be OK with implementing boundaries that keep your dinner plate from overflowing, as it may cause you to lose people that don’t, won’t, or can’t understand. If this happens, and it’s someone you truly want in your life, let them know that they have an open invitation to come sit at your table.
I am doing less and living more since implementing my dinner plate theory. It makes it easier for me to not only plan my day, but to explain to my husband how my day will look. It helps us communicate which tasks I plan to do instead of others. For instance, I’d rather spend my spoons getting my home studio set up than helping with household chores because it’s important for my mental health.
So what’s on your plate? Please share in the comments below.
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